At about 1am in the morning while I was studying Genesis chapter 2, I caught what I can only describe as a light. A different perspective. A slight divergence with more depth from how I've always seen it. You know that feeling you get when the Word leaps right in your face as though it were alive (an indeed the word is alive). You know what I mean. Well, My friend said he recalled what he read on my blog and unknowing to him, he subconsciously made a juxtaposition of my earlier write up and what was whirling in his head was Genesis 2.

Below is just an expatiation on Genesis2:18 & 23.

A lot of people have missed and are still missing the vital piece of the puzzle in their search for their 'ideal' partners for that long-term commitment. A missing link that could be the difference between having a blissful marriage or an enduring one on the verge of divorce.
For those who are discouraged from searching, and thinking of settling for lesser than what they deserve, take a moment to read this. For you who have searched in the wrong areas and end up being burnt, never give up, keep at it but this time wiser; with the few clues I will share below.
I came about this from my personal study of the Genesis 2. This piece of informations will help direct you where to look, nudge you when that person is insight and most importantly help you understand their purpose in your life.

Although, there are a few scriptural verses highlighted here, I couldn't help but include them for clarity purpose. It is however, not limited to Christians alone. It cuts across all religious beliefs and will prove to be the best method to finding that God-ordained soul-mate and partner of desire.

Let us take our reference from Genesis chapter 2, verse 18 "And the Lord God said it is not good for the man to be alone, I will make him an help meet for him" - KJV

SECTION I
If you noticed God used the word "ALONE".
Since the bible was originally written in hebrew,  I took the liberty to find the hebrew meaning of ALONE and discovered it means a state of being without companion. In other words God said and is still saying "it is not good for man to be without a companion" (paraphrased)

What then is companion?
A companion is someone you spend a lot of time with.

Therefore in finding a partner.
1. Find someone you can spend a lot of time with. Someone you can be with, bonding and investing quality time in.  
2. They must at least have similar interests or taste. Either they enjoy the same activities as you, have same interests, hobbies, or at least interested in the topics that interests you etc. This will enable both of you have content for activities and conversations when you spend time together. This means that your partner must first be your friend and confidant. Because when it comes to relationships you are primarily making a choice of a companion.

When I discovered this I went on to look at the same scripture Genesis 2:18 in the New Improved Version (NIV) where it says "...i will make him a helper suitable for him."

I thought to myself, if God has plans of pairing us with our 'suitable helpers', what then is the meaning of SUITABLE in relations to this context. I flipped through the pages of my Oxford dictionary and saw that suitable means RIGHT & APPROPRIATE. In other words God was saying "...l will give him a helper right and appropriate for him." (Paraphrased)

This means that one can have a person who is the right person but not the appropriate one or one who is the appropriate but not the right one, and this is where we have to go to God in prayer cause God's ultimate plan for us is to give is us the RIGHT & APPROPRIATE person.

SECTION II
In Genesis chapter 2, verse 23 I saw a mental picture of Adam declaring in delight and total satisfaction for the gift of a woman God him saying "this is now the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh, she shall be called woman because she was taken from man."

In other to understand the root meaning in this verse, I had to adopt and analytical mind.

1. God created Eve and gave her to him as a suitable helper. For the sole purpose of helping Adam. Whether help in terms of bearing his children, managing the creations God entrusted to him a partner for planning together what to do with the rest of their lives in Eden. I find this amazing! This means that you are more than likely to make gross mistakes if you try to search for your Eve without the help of God. Fascinating isn't it?

Now, let's see what Adam meant by "the bone of my bone" and "the flesh of my flesh."

1. "The bone of my bone". A bone literally means the skeleton or inner structure of a thing. But contextually speaking connotes character and what she is made of as a person. So, when Adam said this is the bone of my bone, he meant in essence "this is the structure, character and type of person that has the capacity to withstand the pressure that may come upon us or relationship or marriage." Adam understood what it means to be in a woman in a marriage. He knew that we men can sometimes be big babies (no offence to men). If they had the choice, the majority of men would prefer to their partners to tie a bib around their necks, put a pacify in their mouth and be rocked from side to side on the thighs of their partners. They want to be cleaned after,  nurtured and supported etc. In so doing, the she ends up multitasking with more than she bargained for and more often than not some women break at this point. Adam knew this. Some scholars say that Adam lived over centuries before God deemed it necessary to create Eve to help him.

2. "The Flesh of my flesh." A flesh is the outer covering of a thing. This connotes physical similarities and features. Because Eve was made with the same material from Adam he could see some aesthetic similarities or some form of resemblance. More often than not there is usually a form of resemblance between a man and his wife. Either at the onset of your union or after years of marriage.

In conclusion, when finding a partner, find one whom you mutually enjoy each others company, a friends and a confidant. One who shares your interests, hobbies and likes and helps you grow. Then go to God to find out if he/she is suitable for the marriage. It is one thing to have a very loyal friend but that same friend may not do well as a husband/wife. God gave Adam his Eve, go to him for yours. I believe there is a woman made for every man. God till date is still in the business of giving Eves to those he who are ready to treat her right an help her maximize her God-given potentials. Find out If that person in your life is the right and appropriate person for you.

Marriage is Ministry, you learn how to be devoted to God through the relationship with your spouse for your first point of ministry is through your spouse. Ephesians 5:21-33 for this will help you in a long journey of marriage.

Sometimes we think we have all the answers and take a blind plunge in to making destiny-decisions base on how we feel. But God always has the ultimate say in all.. Proverbs chapter 19 verse 21 says "many are the plans in a man's heart but the will of God will prevail."
You have observed, let God decide. He rules in the affairs of men.

A discussion between myself and my friend Ken penned down. We hope this help solve some of the issues on decision making concerning A Life Partner... Xoxo