THE CHECKLIST
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Humans are born with the ability to choose and it is important to know what you want and how you want it, also ensuring that your desires are not above the border, personally I think before walking down the isle with anyone, you need to do a checklist of your priorities and the flaws which you can handle, we are all a work in progress, never walk into a relationship with the thought of human perfection, cause where there's no mis-understanding, theres a lie underneath. Where there is no flaw, there's photoshop at its best. These are my most important checklist, be inspired and also discover yours
- THIER ATTITUDES ON KIDS; What is his view on having kids and what does he think about them, is he scared of kids and how does he treat other peoples kids, is he cruel towards kids and does he think that being nice to kids are over rated. does he have family members who have kids, how does he react towards them? ever followed him to see them and see how they react around him? is he a children’s person. having kids definitely pops up once in a while in relationships, does he shy away from it and what is his view on having kids? how many does he want and how soon does he want them? has he made future plans ahead for his kids. Remember not to ignore a mans view on kids cause sometimes it could be that there is a past that there are running from, and yes remember that people do change but there is no certain age for that unless he or she decides to come out of the fear.
- CAREER GOALS; Is he or she the type that gives too much of his time to his job, is he a workaholic? what are his career goals, this can sometimes be driven by where he or she is at the moment so it is adviceable you find out self set career goals cause if you don’t discuss it now and you are not happy about his job, it will be a problem. Don’t expect a partner who is comfortable with his job and role at his place of work to be a CEO of his own company.
- THE PARTYING LIFE STYLE; What does your partner like when it comes to partying? is he or she the love going out to clubs, stumbling in at home for breakfast, or smoking tons of weed? and you are more of a homebody, Yes opposite attract, thats right but then its easy for you to just believe they will just grow out of it and yes there could be fun to hang out with sometimes. But you can’t go into a relationship thinking that maybe they will change this aspect of them and it is just a phase. It is something you really need to consider at the TOP of the relationship, is it something you are ok with?
- SEX DRIVE; A healthy sex life is important. is she the one that wants to f#ck 24/7 and he is the type that forgets he has a D? or likewise, you wonder will there ever solve their and fall in love? yes sex isn’t the main key of a relationship and you don’t necessarily need a partner that suits exactly your driver what is needed is a partner that is open and talks about sex. If you are having to talk about how much sex is expected and how much is lacking, it can cause real problems.
- PAST RELATIONSHIPS; It is easy to start dating all over and forget that the persons past doesn’t matter and all that is important is that you are together, how sweet? But then if your partner has history of cheating or jumping relationships then there is a history to discuss. Things might be going well now but what if he or she is commitment phobic or a serial cheater? the chances are that you’re going to end up same way.
- RELIGIOUS VIEW; You can jump over this for a while, but what if it gets to time to get married? will you be fighting over to go to church or not or which of the denomination to go to or the church to even wed in. how do you intend to raise kids when both of you are not religiously stable or don’t believe strongly in a religion. so this can really cause a lot of stress for you if you avoid the conversation for a long time, make sure this is something you discuss early and be assured that you can’t change your partners mind.
REMEMBER NO ONE IS PERFECT, FOREVER IS A CHOICE
6 comments
You are welcome back darling... was really excited... past relationship and the career goals exactly what I keep saying to people wish they could be a clear gap between loving your job and also creating a lasting memories with your partner outside your job. Love this darling.. hope to see more.. may God grant you more wisdom,knowledge and understand Amen.
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ReplyDeleteHmmmm a nice piece for the singles out there
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely article and quite insightful.
ReplyDeleteAlthough I think there are things that should also be on the checklist:
1. Medical Records e.g Genotype
2. Attitude and how they handle and settle indifferences
3. Family and/or Ethnic situation