REGGYS DIARY

What is love? The scripture defines it as unconditional affection for another, these means that there is no reason for loving the person.

According to Oxford dictionary; love is a strong feeling of affection, it goes further to even say that it is a sexual attraction for a person

Now lets dice the second definition before i go further. Sexual attraction for a person *this is the worldly definition*. Unfortunately this is the kind most of our youth are involved in, that is the reason you will hear a guy or a lady say, i must know how the food taste before I eat it for life but sorry to say this is not love, it is lust for the flesh.

Love is mutual respect, 

Love is helping one another,

Love is honesty and trust

Love is selfless

Love is not pain even though it is jealous 

All these are necessary attribute to show that there is love. I go further by saying wisdom, understanding, respect and loyalty sustains a long lasting relationship.

WISDOM; this is knowing what to do at all times and applying it; good or bad and in a relationship wisdom is important cause this is what guides you to make good judgment when misunderstandings set in. When I mean good judgment, I don't mean that when you are in a violent relationship, you should stay because you feel that he will change, or he is using you but you stay and say men are not easy to come by, can i brag a bit? Yes please, as a young lady, men still flock around me, good or bad. Men will always be there, yours might not just come when you want it. Just know how to rebrand yourself; search inside of you the things you need to work on and improve on them, trust me be prayerful cause birds flock alot more but lions only come all out when they see their target. Wisdom application is knowing that your man just got home from work and is probably tired and you dont want to bring up that troubling neighbors talk, but rather make a warm bath and ask how was work with a nice dinner.

UNDERSTANDING; as a young lady this is very important likewise for a young man. Ladies men don't like to be nagged, they don't want to come back home meeting exactly someone who acts like thier mother, they want a help mate, a friend. Alot of married women loose thier spouse to some little girl who just knows how not to say too much. 

Men understand that you are not the only man who saw the lady you are with or sees her often, men will want your girlfriend even wives, be her Friend rather than judging her and chasing her to find solemn in the hands of another to talk to, be her Friend and you both can even joke about the people she meets, trust me treat a woman with love, respect and more love and she will multiply that and you will get the best of that woman. If you noticed I emphasized on being her friend cause women value friendship alot.

LOYALTY; men loves loyalty, ladies there is no greater way to win a mans heart than for him to know you are his buddy, i mean you are by him always. Men don't expect loyalty if you are not giving it just as a saying goes you attract what you expect. Treating that woman in a way that you should, cause no woman wants to be loyal to a serial cheat, that's infectious(unhealthy). Lastly;

RESPECT; women respect your man it gives them pride to know that their partner respects them, its a self esteem booster, men love to be men allow them to. Don't do it all by yourself give them the chance to do some if not most, let your man know he is your all that gladdens their heart and I don't mean in material things only in every other aspect. Men respect your partner as well, women are weaker vessels they say but they are stronger and if you treat your woman with disrespect she will multiply it for you. 

When you are old or when your partner mis behaves and love is not there to play, wisdom sets in. When you need a listener to your idea or predicament and love is not there understanding comes in, and when all is not well with you financially, and love is confusing, respect plays a role cause it never forgets who you are.     

                                                                            

REMEMBER TO PUT GOD FIRST AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL WORK AND WHEN IT IS WRONG HE WILL REVEAL IT TO YOU... Xoxo